Control your Temper

Just had a chit chat with a friend who has to tolerate with the husband's temper. So, to my dear friend hopefully you have the strength to overcome the problem and may Allah guide you in finding the solutions.

Believe that every problem has a way out...here I wish to share lines of a poem( I think so) which was shared to me by other friend.

The strength of a man
isn't in how hard he hits
It is in how tender
he touches...

The strength of a man
isn't in the weight he can lift
It is in the burdens that he can carry

I also found an article in SDK Magazine, June 2008 which hopefully benefit us in strengthening our marital relationships.

6 ways to help husbands to control their tempers

1. Positive Thinking
Husband should always think positively. Identify your anger. Isolate the work related problems and personal problems. Never let your wife be a scapegoat and throw your anger to her when it is work related issues.

2. Treat a wife as a friend
Release your tense and stress by telling your partner on your emotional status. The wife would feel appreciated as you are willing to share with her.

3. Avoid Punishing Oneself
Be rational. Don't put the blame on yourself or others. A wife is for you to care and love.

4. Tell the Truth
Honesty is the best policy. Don't hide your problem from your wife especially the one involves financial. Sit down and discuss on the problem and try to come up with solutions.

5. BedtimeUse the opportunity to thanks and apologise to your partner.

6. AblutionsPut the fire off with ablutions.

Also, it is good to look in my previous article "Taming your Temper" September 2009.