The Star today highlighted that more Malaysians are considering cosmetic surgery to improve appearance. It looks like the cosmetic surgery industries are blooming despite few reports on fatality cases involving negligence or complications.
Earlier, I came across the article "It's face or figure, after all" in Reader's Digest (Nov 2009) issue.
It touched on the issue that belongs to age group over 40 revealed that a full face might be the secret to youthful looks.
President of the Australian Society of Plastic Surgery, Dr Peter Callan, said "As you get older, it tends to be a case of face or figure. If you keep your figure, and your face can end up looking gaunt."
He added " Fat on the face is like carpet beneath the skin. Without it, the face loses volumes and looks almost deflated."
A US study on identical twins found that those over 40 with a slightly higher body mass index (BMI), an average four points higher than their thinner sibling, appeared younger in the face.
In my opinion, this is may be one of the reasons why individuals turn to cosmetic plastic surgery. No pain no gain.
Believed that the advancement of science and technologies might do wonders. Is it true that you really can hide your original age through your physical appearance?
What about your internal organs...are there any booster or replacement (at the moment only transplants available, yet it's not at your own comfort)?
Or the scientists are on the way to create youthful portions...
This reminded me of the movie "Till Death Do Us Apart" in the '90s starred by Meg Ryan, Merryl Streep and Bruce Waynes.
Anyway, believe that "rules of nature", everything has expiry date....
Saturday, November 7, 2009
Friday, November 6, 2009
Unforgiven Sins
I read the news in The Daily Chilli about a 33-year old father in Mumbai, India jabbed sedatives into his eight-year-old daughter before raping her or sending her out to other men in exchange for cash (RM10) or whisky. This case was revealed by the grandfather.
I was speechless for a moment as I couldn't imagine the trauma that the little innocent girl had gone through. I just could not imagine the impact of the physical, mental and emotional abused to her life in future.
It was really sickening to learn her ordeal as the responsible person was her father, her own flesh and blood, had the heart to commit such an unforgiven sins just to fulfil his own lust.
The father was worse than animals. A father was supposed to provide love and protect her but it turned out the other way infact. I just couldn't believe that a father had such a heart to do all this to his own little girl...(please read my write-up on IVF)
As an eight-year-old girl, she was supposed to be happily going to school, socialize with other kids and playing with her friends.
I also learned that the police had called for the father be given death sentence. Even, if he's dead he had ruined a life. Hopefully, the girl would recover from her misery and trauma with the supports from the psychiatrists and other family member.
This case also reminded me to "Nurin Jazlin" and "Sharleeni" who were nine and eight years old respectively when they were abducted. Nurin's body was discovered in a bag after she was molested and murdered while "Sharleeni" was not heard off.
I was speechless for a moment as I couldn't imagine the trauma that the little innocent girl had gone through. I just could not imagine the impact of the physical, mental and emotional abused to her life in future.
It was really sickening to learn her ordeal as the responsible person was her father, her own flesh and blood, had the heart to commit such an unforgiven sins just to fulfil his own lust.
The father was worse than animals. A father was supposed to provide love and protect her but it turned out the other way infact. I just couldn't believe that a father had such a heart to do all this to his own little girl...(please read my write-up on IVF)
As an eight-year-old girl, she was supposed to be happily going to school, socialize with other kids and playing with her friends.
I also learned that the police had called for the father be given death sentence. Even, if he's dead he had ruined a life. Hopefully, the girl would recover from her misery and trauma with the supports from the psychiatrists and other family member.
This case also reminded me to "Nurin Jazlin" and "Sharleeni" who were nine and eight years old respectively when they were abducted. Nurin's body was discovered in a bag after she was molested and murdered while "Sharleeni" was not heard off.
Thursday, November 5, 2009
The Mistake
IVF (In vitro fertilization) has been successfully proven method of treatment for infertility. It gave new hopes for childless couples to have their own precious special gifts and I was one of the lucky one who benefited from the treatment.
It was still freshed in my mind, I was disbelieved when the nurse from Gleaneagles Hospital broke the promising news to me confirming that I was pregnant (probably multiple pregnancy as my HGL level reading was over 200).
I just couldn't explain my emotions at that time. Excited, happy, unbelievable and grateful were all mixed up as I had underwent series of unsuccessful fertility treatments earlier.
The news really brought happiness to my husband. He was the one who experienced all the morning sickness for few days...Alhamdulillah, finally our prayer was answered after been waiting for 8 years...
However, I was chilled after when through the StarTwo today, "Seeds of Doubt" by Maggie O' Farrel. It was reported that around 12 500 babies a year are born in Britain as a result of IVF.
However, humans are imperfect. A lot of IVF errors were reported as the frozen embryos in petri dishes were mixed up and ended up to wrong couples. The mistakes had put the unfortunate couples to go through the unnecessary emotional stress and grievances besides had to go through the stressful treatment.
Here, were few cases reported related to the incidents.
1. Carolyn Savage from Ohio, US handed over her baby to its biological parents. She had been implanted with the wrong embryo after a mix-up at a fertility clinic.
2. A couple from Cardiff, Wales were told that their last remaining frozen embryo had been mistakenly implanted in another woman, who had since had it aborted.
3. A white Northern Irish couple had given birth to a mixed-race baby, after being given the wrong sperm.
4. A Californian woman was awarded US1mil in 2004 after a fertility specialist gave her the wrong embryo and hid the mistake until the baby was 10 months old.
5. A white New Yorker gave birth to a black baby in 1998, sparkling complex, two-year wrangle between the couples for visitation rights.
Hopefully, more stringent procedures should be enforced by the fertility clinics and only reputable clinics should be allowed to carry out the procedures.
I concurred and sympathised with the unlucky couples who suffered as the process of going through the string of infertility treatments were taxing both financially and emotionally.
Also, childless couples are also bound to receive pressures from relatives and concerned societies of the conditions 'state of the art'...
It was still freshed in my mind, I was disbelieved when the nurse from Gleaneagles Hospital broke the promising news to me confirming that I was pregnant (probably multiple pregnancy as my HGL level reading was over 200).
I just couldn't explain my emotions at that time. Excited, happy, unbelievable and grateful were all mixed up as I had underwent series of unsuccessful fertility treatments earlier.
The news really brought happiness to my husband. He was the one who experienced all the morning sickness for few days...Alhamdulillah, finally our prayer was answered after been waiting for 8 years...
However, I was chilled after when through the StarTwo today, "Seeds of Doubt" by Maggie O' Farrel. It was reported that around 12 500 babies a year are born in Britain as a result of IVF.
However, humans are imperfect. A lot of IVF errors were reported as the frozen embryos in petri dishes were mixed up and ended up to wrong couples. The mistakes had put the unfortunate couples to go through the unnecessary emotional stress and grievances besides had to go through the stressful treatment.
Here, were few cases reported related to the incidents.
1. Carolyn Savage from Ohio, US handed over her baby to its biological parents. She had been implanted with the wrong embryo after a mix-up at a fertility clinic.
2. A couple from Cardiff, Wales were told that their last remaining frozen embryo had been mistakenly implanted in another woman, who had since had it aborted.
3. A white Northern Irish couple had given birth to a mixed-race baby, after being given the wrong sperm.
4. A Californian woman was awarded US1mil in 2004 after a fertility specialist gave her the wrong embryo and hid the mistake until the baby was 10 months old.
5. A white New Yorker gave birth to a black baby in 1998, sparkling complex, two-year wrangle between the couples for visitation rights.
Hopefully, more stringent procedures should be enforced by the fertility clinics and only reputable clinics should be allowed to carry out the procedures.
I concurred and sympathised with the unlucky couples who suffered as the process of going through the string of infertility treatments were taxing both financially and emotionally.
Also, childless couples are also bound to receive pressures from relatives and concerned societies of the conditions 'state of the art'...
Wednesday, November 4, 2009
The Golden Egg
I am sure as kids we were familiar with the fable story of poor farmer who had found a goose that laid a golden egg on each day. However, greedy and lust had overcome him and made him slaughtered the goose to get all the golden eggs in the stomach one shot which would definitely overturned his fortune.
However, greedy and lust did not do justice. He lost the goose and his fortune as the goose was dead with empty stomach.
Similarly, the principle applied to the Slumdog Millionaire kids stars, Azharuddin and Rubina. A lot has been reported on their ordeals after been casting in the blockbuster movie which wrapped up 8 Oscars in the Academy Awards.
Seven weeks after the Oscar, Rubina's father was arrested for attempting to sell her for USD365 000 to a London tabloid reporter. However, the charges were drop off due to lack of evidence.
The latest report was in yesterday paper,whereby the two kids were reminded not to play truancy if they would want to continue receiving their monthly allowance of US120 each from the Jai Ho Trust.
The trust had been established by the movie's British director and producer. Their noble intention was to ensure that the kids would not drop out of school and by 18, they would see their pot of gold.
Both of the kids gave the same excuses during an interview by NDTV about their truancy. "My father died and I had to go through the rituals so I couldn't attend."
Honestly, it was hard for me to take the lame excuses...I pitied the kids. The kids were victimised just to fulfill their flesh and blood greed and lust...
I believe that there are many more kids out there who shared the same destiny...
Source : Reader's Digest (October 2009) and The Star (3 Nov 2009)
However, greedy and lust did not do justice. He lost the goose and his fortune as the goose was dead with empty stomach.
Similarly, the principle applied to the Slumdog Millionaire kids stars, Azharuddin and Rubina. A lot has been reported on their ordeals after been casting in the blockbuster movie which wrapped up 8 Oscars in the Academy Awards.
Seven weeks after the Oscar, Rubina's father was arrested for attempting to sell her for USD365 000 to a London tabloid reporter. However, the charges were drop off due to lack of evidence.
The latest report was in yesterday paper,whereby the two kids were reminded not to play truancy if they would want to continue receiving their monthly allowance of US120 each from the Jai Ho Trust.
The trust had been established by the movie's British director and producer. Their noble intention was to ensure that the kids would not drop out of school and by 18, they would see their pot of gold.
Both of the kids gave the same excuses during an interview by NDTV about their truancy. "My father died and I had to go through the rituals so I couldn't attend."
Honestly, it was hard for me to take the lame excuses...I pitied the kids. The kids were victimised just to fulfill their flesh and blood greed and lust...
I believe that there are many more kids out there who shared the same destiny...
Source : Reader's Digest (October 2009) and The Star (3 Nov 2009)
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
Stay at Home Mom
Aha...thankyou the Star (Nov 3, 2009). These tips come handy just in the nick of time...Being a stay at home (without a helper) for 5 years really a tough test as I have to work 24 hours around the clock and 365 days in a year without any leave.
The worse part is that this profession is salaryless. Some of my friends envy me by calling "a woman of leisure". If only they were in my shoes than ... Well, the grass is always greener on the other side.
I am not only a stay at home mom but A to Z mom. I have to juggle my time from being a mother, chef, chauffeur, judge, gardener, nurse, babysitter, laundry lady, teacher and housekeeper. At the end of the day, I hardly have enough time for myself...
However, all the hard works seem to wash away when you see their face glowing with happiness and satisfactions especially when they get back from school...a sense of security...(just as my four-year old son cried "mama 3x" the moment he saw me fetching him and the brother from preschool).
The beauty of this profession is that it made you become tougher, tolerable, realistic and humane. It also requires extra patience...
The only set back (besides the financial constraint) of being a stay at home mom means restricting my social activities and I do feel lonely at times especially now that my kids have grown up.
So, I have restarted my baking hobby and picking up on sewing while the kids are at school as to kill times. Of course, my favourite pass time is to update my blog. I find that these are fun, enjoyable and mind challenging hobbies as well...
These are the tips listed in the Star on how to be happy as a stay-at-home mom
1. Keep a positive attitude even if you have been awakened four times throughout the night by a sick two-year-old. These days will fly by and someday you will miss such times.
2. Find something you love to do,such as baking or gardening and do it.
3. Join a mom's group to keep you connected with mom of all ages who are going through the same things that you are.
4. Remember that you are a valuable person and that you are doing the hardest work on earth.
5. If you are feeling resentful about it, take a look at your children and know that they are worth your being home and being there for them when ever they need you.
So, to all stay at home mom, do not regret on the decisions that you made up. The rewards are similar to the 'jihad' (those who were killed in the war to safeguard Islams). Alhamdulillah...
The worse part is that this profession is salaryless. Some of my friends envy me by calling "a woman of leisure". If only they were in my shoes than ... Well, the grass is always greener on the other side.
I am not only a stay at home mom but A to Z mom. I have to juggle my time from being a mother, chef, chauffeur, judge, gardener, nurse, babysitter, laundry lady, teacher and housekeeper. At the end of the day, I hardly have enough time for myself...
However, all the hard works seem to wash away when you see their face glowing with happiness and satisfactions especially when they get back from school...a sense of security...(just as my four-year old son cried "mama 3x" the moment he saw me fetching him and the brother from preschool).
The beauty of this profession is that it made you become tougher, tolerable, realistic and humane. It also requires extra patience...
The only set back (besides the financial constraint) of being a stay at home mom means restricting my social activities and I do feel lonely at times especially now that my kids have grown up.
So, I have restarted my baking hobby and picking up on sewing while the kids are at school as to kill times. Of course, my favourite pass time is to update my blog. I find that these are fun, enjoyable and mind challenging hobbies as well...
These are the tips listed in the Star on how to be happy as a stay-at-home mom
1. Keep a positive attitude even if you have been awakened four times throughout the night by a sick two-year-old. These days will fly by and someday you will miss such times.
2. Find something you love to do,such as baking or gardening and do it.
3. Join a mom's group to keep you connected with mom of all ages who are going through the same things that you are.
4. Remember that you are a valuable person and that you are doing the hardest work on earth.
5. If you are feeling resentful about it, take a look at your children and know that they are worth your being home and being there for them when ever they need you.
So, to all stay at home mom, do not regret on the decisions that you made up. The rewards are similar to the 'jihad' (those who were killed in the war to safeguard Islams). Alhamdulillah...
Monday, November 2, 2009
Winds of Change
The winds of change has brought the monsoon season to Malaysia and claimed another 3 lives of UNITAR undergraduates. The tragedy was a week apart from the earlier one when the three were drowned after been swept by strong current at the Batu Berangkai waterfall in Kampar.
The winds of change also affected the world season when Beijing, Inner Mongolia and the provinces of Jilin and Liaoning welcomed the first sighting of snow, the earliest in a decade.
The winds of change also generated new waves of thinking for the Trengganu state government. Earlier, they became the nation spotlight with the proposals of 1 toilet and free second honeymoon for the problematic couples.
This time round, they managed to identify the culprits for the marriage failures. The factors were body odour, humdrum sex and boring pyjamas.
To overcome the problems, they had come up with list of do's. One was to invite cosmetic firms to introduce exotic and sensous fragrances that can arouse sexual desire and the next move was to encourage couples to bathe together.
In one statement, Muhammad Ramli Nuh, the deputy chairman of State Religious and Information Committee mentioned that he knew a couple splitted because the spouse smelled of fish crackers.
Hey, wait a minute...fish crackers...are this referring to the keropok leko? Oh dear, my kids love this keropok leko so much and I have to replenish the stock everytime I patronise the pasar tani. Believe that many others share the same taste of buds...
Well, I don't mean to crack a joke here...but body odour (BO) is something that is hard to tolerate.
My father used to car pool with his colleagues and one of them was a single lady. She was nice looking except that she had BO. My father had a hard time cracking his head how to inform the lady by not hurting her...
There was another incident whereby my ex-officemates were talking behind the BO person. They could not tolerate the smell especially during office hours within the air condition environment.
Nevertheless, will perfume resolve the BO. As far as I know, perfume will react with body chemicals and reproduce a different smell from its original state. So, the best thing is to teach people with BO about hygenic and cleanliness. Also, check their body toxic level as normally the body will emit toxic(which produce bad smell) through sweating.
Maybe the BO individuals need to go for detoxyfication process.
The winds of change also affected the world season when Beijing, Inner Mongolia and the provinces of Jilin and Liaoning welcomed the first sighting of snow, the earliest in a decade.
The winds of change also generated new waves of thinking for the Trengganu state government. Earlier, they became the nation spotlight with the proposals of 1 toilet and free second honeymoon for the problematic couples.
This time round, they managed to identify the culprits for the marriage failures. The factors were body odour, humdrum sex and boring pyjamas.
To overcome the problems, they had come up with list of do's. One was to invite cosmetic firms to introduce exotic and sensous fragrances that can arouse sexual desire and the next move was to encourage couples to bathe together.
In one statement, Muhammad Ramli Nuh, the deputy chairman of State Religious and Information Committee mentioned that he knew a couple splitted because the spouse smelled of fish crackers.
Hey, wait a minute...fish crackers...are this referring to the keropok leko? Oh dear, my kids love this keropok leko so much and I have to replenish the stock everytime I patronise the pasar tani. Believe that many others share the same taste of buds...
Well, I don't mean to crack a joke here...but body odour (BO) is something that is hard to tolerate.
My father used to car pool with his colleagues and one of them was a single lady. She was nice looking except that she had BO. My father had a hard time cracking his head how to inform the lady by not hurting her...
There was another incident whereby my ex-officemates were talking behind the BO person. They could not tolerate the smell especially during office hours within the air condition environment.
Nevertheless, will perfume resolve the BO. As far as I know, perfume will react with body chemicals and reproduce a different smell from its original state. So, the best thing is to teach people with BO about hygenic and cleanliness. Also, check their body toxic level as normally the body will emit toxic(which produce bad smell) through sweating.
Maybe the BO individuals need to go for detoxyfication process.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
The Love
Basically, this is the reason why I quited my job 5 years ago. The love to my kids beat the odd although I knew the decision was hard for my husband to agree.
Finally, he gave the blessing for me to resign after much consideration of my arguments. Although we had to sacrifice a lot due to financial constraint but the bond between us became stronger.
The kids would have a kind of look and a lot of worries, if I sought their 'approval' should I have to go back to the industries. Well, wish to share a good write up by Nor Aliza Samad on her dilemma of being a stay at home mom. Contradict to me, she became the stay at home mom on her husband's request.
I have been staying home much too long. Now that my daughters no longer need me to wake up at 3am to feed them, I want to be back at work like my college friends, who take home handsome salaries.
(In my case, I have to leave my kids around 10pm and came back around 5am and had to go back to work by 7.30am as I was assigned to take care off night constructions after my confinement of my son. The handsome salaries I brought home could not compensate it!)
And what has he got to say about this?
"Well, that's very sensible of you. Frankly, I find working women more attractive and intellectual stimulating."
(This is true for my husband who I knew since college days. He preferred an independent female companion. But what to do, he got me the conservative person. Stimulating ehh...I had to leave for Bintulu for 3 days while I still breastfed my son. I had to endure the pain and sore of my breast during those trip...)
Wait a minute! Wasn't it you who said many moons ago that working women were selfish, individualistic and the cause of family disintegration?
"Gee, did I say that? Well, I guess you have to forgive me, I was green then."
It's very cute of you to admit the slip of the tongue. But we have two children now and had it not been for my nose, even my mother would have mistaken me for Roseanne Bar!!!
The story went on with the husband apologised and encouraged her to apply for jobs.
She broke the news to the kids and like mine, they gave that worry look...
This is the interesting part...The children were in bed. I walked to the bed. There he was, arms wide open, his eyes looking straight into mine.
"Loving you is stimulating enough," he said.
Hopefully, my husband realizes that my love is more stimulating and incomparable...
Finally, he gave the blessing for me to resign after much consideration of my arguments. Although we had to sacrifice a lot due to financial constraint but the bond between us became stronger.
The kids would have a kind of look and a lot of worries, if I sought their 'approval' should I have to go back to the industries. Well, wish to share a good write up by Nor Aliza Samad on her dilemma of being a stay at home mom. Contradict to me, she became the stay at home mom on her husband's request.
I have been staying home much too long. Now that my daughters no longer need me to wake up at 3am to feed them, I want to be back at work like my college friends, who take home handsome salaries.
(In my case, I have to leave my kids around 10pm and came back around 5am and had to go back to work by 7.30am as I was assigned to take care off night constructions after my confinement of my son. The handsome salaries I brought home could not compensate it!)
And what has he got to say about this?
"Well, that's very sensible of you. Frankly, I find working women more attractive and intellectual stimulating."
(This is true for my husband who I knew since college days. He preferred an independent female companion. But what to do, he got me the conservative person. Stimulating ehh...I had to leave for Bintulu for 3 days while I still breastfed my son. I had to endure the pain and sore of my breast during those trip...)
Wait a minute! Wasn't it you who said many moons ago that working women were selfish, individualistic and the cause of family disintegration?
"Gee, did I say that? Well, I guess you have to forgive me, I was green then."
It's very cute of you to admit the slip of the tongue. But we have two children now and had it not been for my nose, even my mother would have mistaken me for Roseanne Bar!!!
The story went on with the husband apologised and encouraged her to apply for jobs.
She broke the news to the kids and like mine, they gave that worry look...
This is the interesting part...The children were in bed. I walked to the bed. There he was, arms wide open, his eyes looking straight into mine.
"Loving you is stimulating enough," he said.
Hopefully, my husband realizes that my love is more stimulating and incomparable...
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